Dana,
I took a tremendous amount of Steve's time with this problem and I think I owe him some. I have overcome some of the problems and found workarounds where I can't.
I had the same problems, but there are a crap load of parameters that determine your outcome.
1. Are your running shared hosting?
2. Are you on Sql Server 2005 or 2008 or Express?
3. Are you trying to attach an external Data Base or are having trouble accessing the Internal Data Base.
4. Who is your hosting account with?
5. What is the string Connection Connection your are trying?
6. If you are trying to access an external Data Base, Why, 'cause of the table size limitations, or, is it an off site
Data Base that you need to read, or to Read/Write to?
I say all this, because I fought trying to isolate my Data Base on external Drives because of the amount of Data that my business is going to generate.
I was on GoDaddy, with their 500 MB Sql Server Db's and moved to Arvixe.com with 10 Gb Sql Server Tables and the ability to link servers which solved most of my problems.
Just maybe, you need to step back and actually access what you really need, just like I did, after wasting a month of Steve's time and beating my head against the wall.
If I can help you, I will out of respect for what Steve did for me, Dana.
Feel free to reach out, if you want.
johnh@thegardenstatemarketplace.com
John Hornak